My Very Own Grocery Organizer

Grocery shopping is a bit of a juggling act with two kids. Although Adelyn has NEVER before been content to sit in the designated baby seat of the shopping cart, ever since Preston was born she has started throwing fits because she doesn't get to sit there. (Thank you, Costco, for having a double seater. No thanks to Walmart for your single seater carts, which have created a sense of scarcity in the life of my child.) Anyway, we temporarily remedied this problem by letting Adelyn hold onto the side of the cart. She would jump off frequently to get things off the shelves for me and things worked out great for awhile.

Lately, however, this has apparently gotten old. She decided to try a new solution and she now prefers to ride on the big part of the cart so she can snack on the tasty treats I put in the cart and not have to hassle with walking and trying to keep up with me. But quite honestly, there really isn't room for a kid her size in a fully loaded grocery cart. She realized this quickly when one week she found herself completely buried under a pile of groceries. I dug her out once we got to the register, but she remembered this experience because the following week...

She requested to get in the big part of the cart again, after first begging to go in Preston's spot, of course. I ran through Walmart as quickly as possible without much thought until we came to the produce section, the final area of my shopping excursion. While loading some potatoes into the cart, Adelyn said emphatically, "But Mom, there's not any more room for those potatoes!" I looked into the cart to discover that all of the food I had loaded was perfectly and strategically organized around her. She had a box of cereal behind her and two others on either side of her; cans stacked neatly under each of her arms; a loaf of bread next to her left leg; meat and cheese next to her right; yogurt and more cans between her feet. It was absolutely amazing!!

Apparently, as I was putting things into the cart, she was finding little spots for them so that she wouldn't get buried this time. And she was right, there wasn't any room for the potatoes. So after I laughed hysterically for a minute or two, I put the potatoes next to Preston, grabbed some grapes and went to the check out counter smiling and thinking, "Where on earth did I get such a precocious and organized little girl?"

P.S. Sorry about not posting pics. My computer's been ill lately.

For All You Parents Out There...

Okay, so I admit it. I am definitely not a perfect parent and thus am quite an avid reader of parenting books. In fact, I read about one book every month, usually immediately following an extremely rough day of motherhood. You all know those days--the days that leave you feeling powerless and miserable. I've found that the only way for me to overcome those terrible feelings is to find some solutions. Not that I think all parenting books have the answers I am looking for. But I figure if I read enough books, chances are I will stumble over some great ideas. Well, I think I have hit a gold mine! "Positive Discipline" by Jane Nelsen is an amazing book. The author is a marriage and family counselor and...mother of SEVEN (my biggest pet peeve about parenting books is that too many of them are written by doctors who have no children!). This book is loaded with great principles and solutions that work.

Just a few principles I learned from this book:

1) Children misbehave for a reason. You can lessen and even eliminate certain misbehavior by understanding why children are acting up and taking steps to fill the need they are trying to fill by their misbehavior.
2) Guilt is not a necessary part of parenting. Where did we ever get the idea that in order to get a child (or anyone, for that matter) to act better, we first have to make them feel worse?
3) Punishment, although sometimes producing a temporary fix, often generates negative long-term results: resentment, rebellion, revenge, and retreat.
4) Children need to be allowed to experience the natural consequences for their actions (within reason, of course). This is the way they learn. For example: if they don't eat, they get hungry; if they stand in the rain, they get wet. As parents, we don't have to always shield them from these things. It is too much work for us, and then they never learn responsibility and accountability. It is important to allow children to make their own choices, then be a resource for them to help them make a better choice if they made a mistake. Teach children that mistakes are wonderful opportunities to learn and grow!
5) Logical consequence are appropriate when children make choices that interfere with the rights of others or are potentially harmful. All consequence must be related, respectful AND reasonable. If we leave out any of the 3 R's, it is a punishment and will probably produce negative long-term results.
6) Giving children age-appropriate chores helps them feel a sense of belonging and importance.
7) Spending regular quality one-on-one time with each child builds strong relationships and helps children misbehave less frequently.
8) Having weekly family meetings to solve problems helps keep a home running smoothly. These meetings help children learn self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, problem-solving skills and accountability.

Well, there you go. A great book and like I said, it is founded on excellent principles. Already, it has proved to make a huge difference in my little toddler's behavior and in my sanity. By the way, I don't know if this book will be of much help until children are about three years and older, but I have another favorite book for younger toddlers, "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" by Harvey Karp (he also wrote one for infants). I also love "The Potentially Sane Mother's Guide to Raising Young Children" by Tamara Fackrell. What are your favorite parenting books?

Corn Belly's

We went with some of our friends to Corn Belly's at Thanksgiving Point. It was even more fun this year because Ryan came with us and Preston was actually able to enjoy it too (last year he slept in the Bjorn the whole time).

Preston had a blast digging in the corn kernels. He loved that little fake squash that he's holding. Oh, and the "ouchie" on his head is when he had a run-in with the cement a couple of days before. Poor little guy.

Our little princess Adelyn in her carriage. This may have been what inspired her desire to be Cinderella for Halloween.

"What am I supposed to do with all this hair!" (Fortunately, Cinderella has shorter hair.)

Ryan took Preston on the cow train through the pumpkin patch. It was really bumpy and fun.

Adelyn rode with her good friend Jaron.

Corn Belly's "Rocks," or so this HUGE rocking chair tells us.

The Basement Playroom

Since we moved into our new house, Ryan and I have always planned to make our unfinished basement into a playroom. But with winter well on its way, the project had been on my mind more and more. And I confess I have a bit of a problem with becoming slightly obsessed when I get my mind set on something…

Saturday: I was running down the road and I spotted a brand new Thomas the Train table at a yard sale. I stopped, asked the price, and then ran home as fast as I could. Between gasps for air, I explained to Ryan where he had to go and what he had to get. He was back in 20 minutes with the table, and he had even bargained them down $10 extra dollars. Yeah! But now we had a train table in our front room. I stewed over that fact for a day or so…

Monday: First thing that morning, I was on the phone with several carpet stores. Then I dragged Adelyn and Preston around to four of these stores with a mission to find myself the perfect carpet remnant for my unfinished basement playroom (see Addie’s quote to the right for a laugh). After shopping around, the first store of the four ended up having the best deal (of course), so I went back and paid for the remnant. I got a great deal; it was less than $7.00/yard and is perfect!

Tuesday: I waited all day for it, but the carpet was finally delivered around 3:30, while both kids were asleep. The delivery guy just left it in my garage, saying that because of the tight corners, it would probably take at least three people to get it down to my basement. I watched the garage door close while he drove away and I thought, “What was he thinking leaving this carpet in my garage? Does he have any idea what kind of person I am?!!” The roll was 12 feet wide and 22½ feet long, much too big for me, it was true, and seemingly impossible to get around the corners alone. But honestly, how could I wait around? I was on a mission! With a little elbow grease, lots of grunting, and a few times being pinned between the carpet and the stairs and having to somehow lift it over my head while I wormed my way back under to the other side (good thing I learned how to do power cleans in my track days or I would’ve been pinned for good!), the carpet was downstairs.

The kids woke up from their naps and helped me unroll it. Then they ran back and forth like little maniacs while I vacuumed. They were so excited! I was so excited! It covers all but just a few feet to either side of the room and is soft and warm. It will keep my kids’ feet warm and their heads free from bruises (well, relatively speaking). Ryan came home and I showed him the fruits of my four-day obsession. He was so amazed and pleased. (I didn’t give him too many details about my fateful installation job.) We brought all the toys down that evening and…

Wednesday morning: The place was ready for little visitors. Adelyn and Preston LOVE it and I am so happy to have a place where they can run around and release some energy without the rest of my house being torn apart at the seams. It is perfect! And because our basement already has plastic-covered insulation, they can literally bounce off the walls and not get hurt. I even bought a table and a chair so that I can scrapbook while the kids play. I am so thankful it all worked out. In fact, I think we should go play down there now.

Good Ol' Joy School

So, as of the beginning of September, Adelyn has officially become a "Joy Schooler." Me and four other moms rotate houses every week and take turns teaching our five toddlers about all of the many joys in life. It has been tons of fun so far. Adelyn comes bouncing home everyday holding her latest craft project and singing a new song, and tells me about all of the wonderful things she's learned.

I got to teach two weeks ago. The theme was the joys of nature. We went on an awesome nature walk at Adventureland Park. We fed the ducks, went on a nature walk and looked through our "viewers" (Adelyn calls them "telescopes," but really they are just decorated toilet paper rolls), played on the playground, and had a snack complete with flower-shaped PB&Js, carrots and trail mix. It was so much fun. Here are some of the pics:

All the kids in a row. From left to right, Vaughn (Zachary's brother), Zachary, Rebekah, Dallin, Adelyn, Hollie (Dallin's sister), and Amy. They are all so cute and fun!

The kids using their "telescopes" to look at the world just one thing at a time. Of course Adelyn's is pink, her favorite color.

Adelyn loved playing on the playground. She's always loved to climb on things.

Each day the kids rotate jobs on our helper chart. They get to help with the snack, the calendar, the weather chart, or the music, or they get to be the wake-up fairy and wake all the kids up after they have their "nap." Zachary did a fabulous job being our wake-up fairy at the outing. Here he is waving his magic wand.

Girl Time

It is always nice to have some girl time to balance out the hours and hours of Mommy time in my life. Here is a quick glimpse of some of the latest outings:

My good friend from high school, Lis (far left), is expecting her first baby (a boy) around Thanksgiving. Her sisters threw her a shower, which was a lot of fun. Leslie and Heather are some of my high school friends who came to celebrate as well.

We had a BYU cross country/track reunion hosted by my track buddy Anika (she's the one on the bottom in the center). It was so much fun to catch up with everyone's news and have our kids play together. Oh, and the home made pizza was excellent too.